Why I Created “The Levels of Love”

Welcome to my relationship guidance website, “The Levels of Love.” My name is The Stormy Poet. I am the author of two published anthologies, “Product of the Storm” and “A Pale Face for a Collar: Testimonials of an Office Rat,” and of my literary art, independent news, lifestyle guidance and social commentary site, TheStormyPoet.com (for the past 4 years). I appreciate you taking the time to stop by today.

There is a slew of relationship gurus, dating coaches, and pick-up artists out here who have plenty to say about how to attract and how to hold on to Mr. and Mrs. Right or how to bang a bunch of women.  And, while some–very few–of those individuals have good intentions, a lot of them are also providing advice out of the spirit of just wanting a bunch of YouTube hits (telling people what they want to hear for attention), of bitterness they’ve gained through their own past-failed relationships, and of ignorance in not having a sufficient understanding of how women and men see the world differently. 

For the longest, I would give relationship advice to my family and peers, founded in the knowledge base I’d built up for years formed out of the relationship patterns I’ve studied, my own past relationship successes and failures, and literature I’d examined centered around the topic.  So, I figured I mine as well create a create my blog and write books about what I knew, so could share insight about specific relationship challenges I felt a lot of relationship “gurus” weren’t speaking on–ones who either didn’t know enough about to speak or who were avoiding doing so for the sake of pacifying a certain audience.  

In my second published book, A Pale Face for a Collar: Testimonials of an Office Rat,” there is a chapter I entitled “When It Comes to the Men and the Women…” where I broke down how men and women see the world through completely different lenses and about why seeing things differently is a good thing.  Just as importantly, I touched on what many who give relationship advice don’t adequately go in-depth about or just choose not to speak about at all.  Though I covered a lot in that chapter, I felt I still had so much to say on the topic.  So, in part, that chapter inspired this blog.

We definitely need to discuss the different issues relationships face in the spirit of men and women genuinely wanting to gain a deeper understanding of each other’s divine uniqueness.  But, while living in this society, we can’t talk about relationships without talking about how systematic racism has negatively affected the sanctity of then as a whole.

Although my site, TheStormyPoet.com, covers a variety of topics, I felt that the act of closely examining the dynamic that systematic white supremacy and cultural misogyny (which is a byproduct of white supremacy) play in our relationships (romantic, family, friend, business) and that breaking down what that means in terms of how we intimately interact with each other was going to require a page of its own, in order to properly and effectively distribute the amount of related content.

This page wasn’t created to put the males nor the females on any kind of pedestal or to kiss any group’s ass just so I can get a bunch of web site and YouTube hits.

I didn’t create it to give people advice they’ll just use to reinforce their misguidingly, self-righteous opinions.  This page was not created for the sake of emotional exchanges.  We’re here to talk like adults.  

Unlike many of the people who give relationship advice, I didn’t want to do so coming from a holier-than-thou disposition, because Heaven knows I’ve had my own relationship failures and downfalls.  Most of us have, and I want to show the people what I’ve learned from those mistakes and poor choices and that they can learn from their own, so that they don’t repeat them. 

I don’t want to give the people guidance in their relationships while pretending that racism is something we don’t have to factor in and contend with, whether we want to accept that or not.

This isn’t a page for people to argue, bicker, or tear each other down.  This is a place for men and women to learn how to recognize their own brokenness, how to remedy it, and how we both, as divine beings, can build with one another.

This is a space where, when we talk about the challenges relationships face, we have discussions based on data, context, personal accounts we’ve learned, and a genuine desire to understand each other better.  We don’t deal in emotional back and forths on here.

In this space, we’re here to understand love…true love–every level of it.

What level of love do you want to experience?

My name is The Stormy Poet, and I look forward to exploring The Levels of Love with each and all of you.